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Summer Holiday Romances

Maybe it’s the heat, the half naked bodies, the fact you feel more alive and relaxed being away from the stresses of daily life or the long days and warm nights. Whatever it is your more likely to find romance on holidays then you are at home.

There is something incredibly exciting and exhilarating about summer romances. They can boost your confidence and make you feel super sexy. There is a sense of urgency in them that is not present in regular relationships, less time to explore each other or play silly games. The whole time you are together sin sinks with the honeymoon stage of a relationship. This can make a summer fling feel like the perfect romance or the ideal love. Most people treasure this experience weather it is young love in a caravan park on a holiday with your parent at 16 or an overseas adventure to a tropical paradise with friends at 30. However there are also some pitfalls to watch out for.

Summer romances can be incredibly sexy. It’s a time when inhabitations are thrown out the window. There are passionate moments on the beach with the waves crashing around you and other wildly adventous moments to be had. Usually these sexually adventurous moments can be couples with quite a few cocktails which loosen the inhibitions further. If it’s all in good fun and your both consenting adults enjoy the ride but the trouble is things can get out of control.

Often in a summer romance you can feel rushed into having sex, he may not be there in the morning (due to having to travel somewhere else or go home) or you have only a couple of days together. You don’t want to end up having sex with a stranger and be left with regret and guilt in the morning. Try slowing down on drinks and taking some time out to think things through, this way you have made a decision you feel comfortable with.

Remember to practise safe sex; you don’t want to come home with some post holiday surprises. It’s easy to get carried away with the moment and “forget” to use condoms. Always carry them with you and insist on using them.

Another potential pitfall that you may encounter is one of you may be keen to take the relationship further then a summer fling but the other is not. If he is keen but you are not the best thing to do is to make your intentions clear. If it is only a holiday fling then say so and don’t swap contact details at the end of your trip as it will only confuse him further. Be firm but tactful, if you had a wonderful time tell him but also be firm on your decision not to take things further.

It you break off the romance and he persists in pressuring you make sure your travelling companions are aware or a tour leader if you are travelling in a tour. If you are travelling alone it may to time to move onto your next destination or alert a hotel manager or similar to the harassment.

Likewise if you fall for him harder then he has for you just remember that holiday romances are just that romances that last for the holidays. He may get back to the stresses of his daily life, holiday over and reality sets in. Just because it ended doesn’t mean that he didn’t feel strongly about you on holidays, try and look back on it with fond memories and try not to feel betrayed because it ended.

So what if you do find true love while on holidays and want to continue the relationship past a holiday fling? There also may be some obstacles in the path of true love. You’ll be very lucky if the man you meet lives in the same town or city as you. You may have to deal with a long distance relationship for a while. If this is the case get to know each other via email, chat and phone contact. Arrange for him to spend a weekend in your home town and you in his (if he is not in another country that is!) The main problem with this is that people can try and keep the holiday romance going with love letters and steamy phone calls that last for hours only to find that when they met up again months later that the spark from the holiday is no longer there. Or worse still one relocates only to find that they are not compatible. Having no expectations, taking things slowly and taking time to get to know each other outside of the holiday domain will help you over come the lingering holiday lust and find out if this really is true love.

Turning a holiday romance into a long term relationship may be hard but not impossible. There are many couples that have met this way and had successful relationships that extend past a summer fling. Love while on holidays where you may have had nothing to do but make love all day in your hut on a tropical beach maybe a far cry from the reality of your everyday life. To combat this begin the relationship again; go on dates as you would with any possible future partner. Have no expectations of long term commitments and see where it takes you both. Get to know the at home and real person slowly and make sure that it is something you really want.

Holiday romances can be some of the most exciting and wild romances of your life. They are memories that you treasure forever. Just remember to take your time, don’t rush into anything you don’t feel comfortable with. Be true to yourself, have fun and stay safe. Enjoy your holidays!!

Kelly: Galafun

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